A reader recently wrote to ask me if she should turn down a guy she thought was really great but wasn't physically attracted to, and if so, how should she do it without being too harsh? For the first part of her question, I'm including links to past discussions of the issue at the end of this post. But I've contemplated the dilemma of how to turn a guy down without being awkward or plain old cruel a few times myself, so I consulted some men in my circle of acquaintances for their take on the issue. If they have to be rejected—sorry guys!
While the latter is much easier to use and provides you with more options than the former, both of these love-finding ways have one thing in common — rejection. Everything in online dating happens fast, which means those who use it are required to make good first impressions if they want to make someone interested in them. When it comes to turning someone down, a good first impression can make things pretty difficult for you.
By eHarmony. The Science of Love by eHarmony Labs. Letting someone down can be difficult. You want to be clear that you are not interested, but at the same it is important to 1 be respectful to the other person and 2 be consistent with your own personal image of yourself e.